Weird scenario

[Jeack]

Thanks JP all good advice. either scenario has me moving forward.

[Jeack]

Today is one week with no contact. Feeling pretty good.

[Jeack]

So I spent last night reading old texts between me and W sinces she's left needless to say. I wasn't DBing. There were times that she reached to be friends and I hard headed pushed her back. There were also times where she was overly nice just to manipulate me for money. She even admitted it during a argument we had.

So I know it's not good to read old messages, but really showed me how verbally abusive I was.

Next weird scenario. When I was still pursuing and chasing W. I decided to friend her brother on Facebook. Just now he accepted it 2 weeks later. Me and him have always got along very good as a matter of W said I was the only he ever liked. I don't want to mind read into anything but wondering if it was to see what I'm up to or what. I also could see where W would see this is pursuing.

So how would you act on Facebook. I haven't said anything bad about W on FB at all. Just wondering how the vets would handle this.

[sandi2]

FB can mess you up! Just like now, you are asking yourself questions as to why your BIL waited till now to add you as a friend.

Couples who are having problems will watch each other and use FB of relatives & friends to try to keep track of activities. The best thing is to leave that stuff alone. You have enough to deal with without wondering about the intentions of W's relatives.

[Grizz]

FB can be awful. Someone can write a post about one person and twenty other people will think that it is about them. Part of me would really like to block my W on FB but I really enjoy her posts about our girls. I definitely over analyze everything she says or does in life or posts on FB.

[Jeack]

Guess it was just a coincidence that today has been one week since W and I last communicated. Also didn't know if using FB to "act as if". My W has already blocked me from every possible social media site.

I do still hope to be friends with BIL either way. So Id feel like a crazy person deleting him again.

[Jeack]

FB can mess you up! Just like now, you are asking yourself questions as to why your BIL waited till now to add you as a friend.

Couples who are having problems will watch each other and use FB of relatives & friends to try to keep track of activities. The best thing is to leave that stuff alone. You have enough to deal with without wondering about the intentions of W's relatives.

I couldn't agree more. That would be #10 on your great list of 37

[Jeack]

FB can be awful. Someone can write a post about one person and twenty other people will think that it is about them. Part of me would really like to block my W on FB but I really enjoy her posts about our girls. I definitely over analyze everything she says or does in life or posts on FB.

I hear you on that one. I was constantly checking mutual friends of ours phone to look at her Facebook. But I gave that up last Wednesday as well. Almost did last night when I was out with a friend, But thought what good is going to come of seeing what she's doing. Nothing!

[Jeack]

Ok hear I go again. So me and W have a very good mutual friend (male friend). He lives down the road. I had my son tonight and stopped for dinner and a drink at a local bar we both go to you. now keep in mind this friend has said he wanted to stay neutral. tonight he starts asking how the divorce is going and this and that. I just said I have no clue. Havent heard from W in awhile this is what she wants and i'm coming to grips with everything and just enjoying my freedom the same as she probably is.

Thank god another friend showed up and started talking about golfing so I could say going home to finish laundry.

I know I'm thinking to much. But a lot of lil things happened today!

[Jeack]

And at what point should I start a new thread? This one is getting pretty long.