MLC step by step...what's next?

[Lilith]

Thanks for your thoughts and advice KD!

While that would be something to note, your H could [u]simply be doing "the right thing" in honouring you as the mother of his son. Nothing more, nothing less[/u] and it has no bearing on whether your H loves you or not nor that he wants to reconnect with you.

That's exactly what I thought too!
H has been always friendly,polite and sensitive on these areas; and maybe to show example to our S, that inspite of our sitch we could still get along and be "friends"

If you go, just be sure not to have any expectations around it. Enjoy yourself and just don't expect this one event to change your H's mind about his future.

I am able to get over this stage already...I hold no expectations anymore or whatsoever from H

If you don't think you could handle being with him, that you would be edgy or emotional, then decline. If you can manage it emotionally, it could be a good time.

I guess I can handle it now, as we work together without emotional turmoil these past few months...and especially when S is around we become more friendly.
And I am actually thinking to go...but
The only thing that bothers me is that if I agree to go, it is not or I am not detaching...although he is the one inviting but its "more of the same" on my part as well. That's how I see it. Am I correct?