Struggling and need help #2

[reachingHigher]

CB, that emotional swing back and forth is one of the reasons this is called a roller coaster. You have a ride up....followed by a ride down that gives you a funny feeling in your gut! Sound familiar?

I eventually accepted that any positive communication with my H would be immediately followed by a withdrawal or more replay activities. I never could figure it out it....just tried to accept it. They want distance from us. It just is the way it IS.

It doesn't hurt less knowing this, but you don't feel blindsided each time. So...hence the IM with tatboy following your connecting convo. Look at it this way....at least you have some connection with her! That IS positive for you. Then do the things like FY suggests above -- strong and confident YOU... focusing on your life. (I still need to daily say this advice to myself. It's SO hard to do. But it works.)