Quote: These are ALL great things to talk about, and to try to find solutions for, that don't seem to be specifically addressed anywhere.
If we were to start looking at some of the "in depth" solutions to any of these topics, which ones do you think or feel would be the most important to tackle first? Or, might there be any that taking care of one thing might help to solve the other?
Well JJ, in looking at my little list (incomplete though it probably is) the general areas seem to be Post-tramatic symptoms, residual fear over trusting again, and a lot of grieving and pain that has been surpressed during the initial DBing process.
So far, I haven't heard of any realistic treatment for PTSD (aside from EMDS--which didn't work for me--as much as I wanted it too; and some technique that our current MC suggested that involved tapping certain areas of the body repeatedly). Have you heard of anything that actually WORKS to lessen the symptoms of PTSD?
The fear of vulnerability--fear of being hurt again part: well I suppose in the best case scenario, our mates will be consistant and reasurring for as long as it takes for the fear to lessen. Many of us are having difficulty expressing the importance of that to our mates, much less asking for our needs to be addressed.
I suppose that a very common theme here is that we DBed our butts off, but repressed most of our own needs and emotions in order to get our M's back on track and stabilized. Now that the crisis part is over, having had all those very strong and powerful emotions repressed and unattended to can lead to problems, much less resentment of our mates for not understanding. Despite being wounded to the core, many of us were acting as emotional care-takers of our whacked out aliens in order to save our R's.
I think you're right, many of the issues that seem to be so common at this stage don't seem to be addressed anywhere. It's not like we can go pick up a book that addresses this stage and the obviously common problems that go with it.
