Reb, I know that sounded harsh and it wasn't posed as you taking responsibility for his actions, that's all his. I just know that I've had to look closely at my old behaviors, one of them being always wanting just a little more, and realize how difficult that is to live with day in and day out. It's a shaming sort of thing.
But if it's not you, it's not you.
Glad you had a good time with your daughters and that communication with H is better.
And you are changing, every time you post you seem calmer, more together.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss