Um, well....speaking as one who has decided that staying and trying to work on this M anymore would only be a detriment to me, I can relate with NO fond memory how all those fears were a constant in my life.
I always knew what T2 said her fear is, was true for me. That I was NEVER going to be able to get past the betrayal.
Still.....I tried. All the anxiety and unspoken words I longed to say AND to hear that never came to past.
This DBing stuff is truly the hardest thing I've ever had the misfortune of having to TRY to do.
I say this because it is with great misfortune any one of us find ourselves in this position.
It just didn't work for me-my H never stopped lying. I figured 5 yrs of my life was long ewnough since I never got the indication he was any closer to coming home than he was when he left.
There is however, hope for many on here. Question is, how will we live the rest of our lives with this pain?
Some seem to be able to move past it. Some are trying to figure out HOW to move through it.
I personally am glad I'm not in this race anymore. I have a peace that I have not had in years.
I wish everyone on here peace within their marriages and a way to find happiness and wholeness again with their S.
