You stand the best chance by not trying to reconcile. The more you can keep your mind off W and limit your contact the better, because you will give her space.
This is very important to really believe. The success stories almost always come from people that got to the point of not trying to R and instead were working on only themselves. No matter what happens with M it's still a success because you'll be in such a better spot personally.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
