Your right- The email sounds fair. The problem begins when I see her name as the sender and the anxiety begins....
I open it, read it, over analyze it, begin drafting a response and exhaust myself.
Hang in there, it gets easier! You'll have hundreds of such emails as coparents. Your response was what it should have been. Now you just have to get your emotions in line with that as well If you're not sure about your response then go ahead and type it up and save it as a draft, wait a while and read it again before sending.
My wife is a lawyer.....but it was D3 cross examining me last night
"Daddy, where is Mommy?" PS - "She is away" "Is she at a hotel?" PS - "No, she is staying at a friends house?" "A friend? What kind of friend?"
[This is where it became a challenge. What is the best answer that is relatable for a 3YO to grasp? F#$K Buddy, FWB, Boy toy, would all be perfectly acceptable yet sooooo unacceptable.......What to do?]
PS- "What kind of friends do you have?" " Well i have _____,_____,______ - they are all my friends" PS- "Well mommy has some friends too"
THANK GOD she lessened the vice grip at that moment.
THATS when I screwed up
D3 " I Love Mommy and Daddy" PS - "I love Mommy and D3" D3 - "Daddy loves Mommy- Mommy loves Daddy"
I kicked myself. I screwed up
I then asked D3 to help me make dinner. We threw in a frozen pizza but made a very yummy (and quick and easy) three bean salad.
GOOD NEWS- I was up at 4:50 this am and did my exercises
The day looks better and I look better/feel better when I do them.........I was reminded of that this morning.
Head is back up just in time----------My W comes home tonight
Lord- keep that strength a flowing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
1 can cut green beans 1 can cut wax beans 1 can cannalini beans (Chopped sweet onion if desired) Kraft zesty italian (to taste) salt and pepper (to taste)
mix- let sit for 10 minutes- mix again- adjust flavors
So easy D3 made it.........and D3 taste approved
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Tomorrow is our next meeting with what was originally our MC who we have now designated/ transformed into our co-parenting coach.
Last night I went out and -out of courtesy- left my wife a note detailing the status of everything going on in the house (as she was gone for 5 days). When I came home she was asleep in the guest room
This morning she was up early to do exercise with me. Then we all had breakfast together as a family. D3 was soooo happy
I hate being a doormat- but she has LOTS of space to find her way
Tonight we will have dinner together then breakfast again in the morning
Then she will be off to her ______________ house
Then D3 and I's life will return to new normal
I HAVE THE POWER!!!!!!!
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
[This is where it became a challenge. What is the best answer that is relatable for a 3YO to grasp? F#$K Buddy, FWB, Boy toy, would all be perfectly acceptable yet sooooo unacceptable.......What to do?]
PS, This made me laugh, thank you for that.
I think you handled it perfectly btw.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
I'm sitting in the corner of my bedroom, on the floor, in the dark, crying. Pretending not to be here. I'm silent so that d3 won't hear me as she is currently having story time with w.
Tonight, during dinner she accepted a call from om. She begins to discuss wether they should go to a restaurant that WE had always wanted to go to or wether they should just spend the weekend away"...........they decided on the restaurant.
After that I brought my dish to the kitchen and asked d3 to assist me with chores.w stands beside me and I say (not in earshot of d3) " that was the most disrespectfully,aweful thing anyone has ever done to me......
Her response " what was? I was in meetings all day and he has a class-he was just calling me back"
She is currently downstairs in the guest room. I believe, laughing and talking with boy toy #2
I have not snooped in over 2 mths and it's still thrown in my face:(
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Dang it PS! I Am so sorry! You know that really isn't your W right? I mean she is lost and not in her right mind. I know that doesn't make it hurt any less. So I really hate that we all don't live close so that we can go support each other in person. Keep posting on here or get out of your house and do something to let out your pain. Go cry aand then cry some more, it helps.
(((PS)))
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
I need some time to clear my head because it is taking everything I have not to lawyer up and drop the nuke....
Unfortunate, I have breakfast with her at 6 and mc at noon. Thankfully, I took the afternoon off from work tomorrow and will walk a 5k immediately following mc
My body is in pain and my head is exhausted but I have NEVER been so tough in my life
Just ANOTHER nick to my heart
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
If you're not sure about your response then go ahead and type it up and save it as a draft, wait a while and read it again before sending.