NILWY - There is this "chemistry" b/w us

[Kim65]

Your right KD, those "fairy tale" endings are in hollywood movies!!.. And if he had spun me around, told me not to leave,that he'd changed his mind I still would have left. As much as I still love him I know that we would have had to start again....

And yes he does believe that he has "just fallen in love with her".... H has told me he and OW had had "feelings" for each other for sometime.... or has it been lust?? From what H told me he still "loved" me up until he and OW got physical with each other which was 4 weeks before he told me about the A,and than "fell out of love" with me during that time??. And then "fallen in love" with OW within the following month... I do agree with you that what he could be feeling, is not necessarily love, rather some variation of appreciation and lust.

I almost forgot to mention KD that I did look into ACOA, and seems I have been affected by an alcoholic parent far more than I had thought!! A test I took said I had been profoundly affected.. And now realize more so of why I am who I am, not just me but my brothers as well. The three of us are all very similar and I realize why!! Lots of characteristics which are me! Was an eyeopener to say the least.. Thankyou

Now that I'm moving into another chapter on this journey, I'm guessing that I should start another thread????

I have really appreciated your input KD, it has helped me stay sane and I thank you!!.. So now as you said, I will work on my self and become an even more awesome woman whom only a fool would leave, and keep the focus on myself.