Ah...Funkland. I too have moved rapidly from LimboLand to Funkland. I can't seem to shake the blues and my ever faithful companion - anxiety. I don't want this funk to affect my marital progress, either.
I periodically make quick, subtle references to my H about why I'm suddenly in an emotional fetal position. He seems quite understanding and even gives me an extra dose of affection when he sees me paddling in the pool of melancholia.
I'm still reticent to discuss "things" as openly as I'd like, and I too REALLY need to hear the WORDS "This will NEVER happen again". But alas - alack, it will need to come from him freely in order for it to have the proper impact. Humph!
If Wolfie is struggling with copious amounts of guilt and shame right now, it may not be possible for him to volunteer healing statements or bring up related topics - yet. His fear level may be as great as yours - believe it or not. If only we could visit the inside of their minds for a while. Then, of course, that might be an icky experience, so.....never mind.
You, Sage, Shiny and me, all seem to be going through very similar snags.
"Piecing our marriage back together again" should have a subtitle - "Piecing ourselves back together again".
