Crazy little thing called MLC

[Raine]

I was wondering that about bringing it up with rH's and T^2's spouses looking into it and doing their own research. Maybe my H will ask me at some point and I can give him suggestions.

It is so interesting to me that not filing and being okay with this limbo and cheating is such a common thread. It's perhaps the biggest indicator to me that this is not a typical marriage problem.

Today he told me that a girl he works with who went through a very quick D, and who likely cheated on her spouse has wanted him to confide in her as a friend so they can commiserate together. He hasn't and she's annoyed by it. But anyway, the interesting thing he said is she wants to find someone like her so she feels better about her situation. Then he said, "but I think I'm unique. I may not be, but i like to think that." It must look so very weird to outsiders. 7 months separated and people who know we are find it strange that we seem to get along so well.

I think I'm just prodding along until it no longer makes logical sense to remain married. Emotional sense happened long ago.

I get what you mean about the forgetting. I think it is there, buried with everything else. It would make things very interesting if he remember some specific things I told him at that time. Perhaps he does. Perhaps he knows the answers but doesn't want to confirm or ask. Like so many other things with him.