Bring up the subject of MLC? To what end? You can say it, but honestly do you think he'll hear it? I did, and I can tell you it wasn't "really" heard.
Why don't they file? Who really knows, but my guess is fear and guilt that manifests as anger in many cases.
He feels guilt and anger and all kinds of emotions most likely. But he also can't stop the train. He has to ride it to the end. Along the way, they seem to feel like they don't want to let go (who would?) for reasons that are hard to explain. Along the way those that are on that train get hurt many times over. It is how it is unfortunately.
Does he remember it? It's in there somewhere. All of it. He may not be able to recall it right now, but it's in there.
To file or not to file? That's a personal choice on your part. There are no easy answers. But with time and patience, you will learn what is right for you. It may not be what you thought before this started and it may be. But it has to be your answer and your choice, because you'll live with it either way.
Whatever choice you make will be the right one. Don't worry about that. When you no longer second guess your choices, you've made up your mind, right?
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
