J - I do exactly the same thing...by nature I'm not just a 'glass is half empty guy, but the glass is half empty and it's poisoned' I need to follow what you're saying.. I know if there is ANY chance down the road, she needs to feel heard. Thanks.
PS - Thanks for the advice. I fear MC with the W. she keeps bringing it up. I fear that since she says she can't comit to workon reconciling that she will not be very open when we go. Mind reading I know, but, still a fear because she has been very methodical in all of this. I feel like we both should take more time with our own IC and see how we do. Time may lend more perspective.
My goals for me:
Short Term: - keep getting in better shape. I've lost nearly 25 pounds. - meet new people - become better at managing finances. I don't think I'm bad with money, but, W always took care of it. - most importantly - be the best Dad I can be to my daughter. She means the world to me.
Long Term: - career advancement. Reponsibilities, pay, etc - have a loving, respectful and happy relationship. hopefully with W - regain self esteem and have an active social life. - most importantly - be the best Dad I can be to my daughter. She means the world to me.
