The Year of Seismic Activity

[sage]

Tal -- Kudos to both of you for the way you managed the sitch!

Why do you think he doesn't tell you stuff that's bothering him? Capturing that reason and 180'ing that (if you can) might work, right? You'll obviously still have to demand answers for a while but maybe once he's unblocked he'll start initiating more often?

I'm thinking of stuff like he doesn't tell you things because...

he feels you try to fix things for him
he feels invalidated by your response
he feels as though you personalize it (ahem, I can relate here)...

Maybe it's totally unrelated to you, though...a harder nut to crack..(it's hard for him to open up, it's hard for him to look like he is struggling, etc)

Sounds like you did awesome!

Sage