Thanks Busting,
I am having a really hard time trying to maintain some sense of compassion for XH.

I feel so resentful and angry at his behaviour.

I can't just let it go and think that he is just living his own life in the way that he wants to now.

I keep going back to the idea that there has to be some sort of mental problem.

I want this to be the case, and I want verification from others.

I'm working on keeping detached, but the nastiness and bullying is hard to ignore.

Not only do I no longer care about him, I want him to be gone, completely, from all of our lives. I wish I'd never met him.

Is my anger about fear - that he'll actually get away with taking all our money. And that he'll leave us destitute?

Probably.
But also I'm just angry that he's getting away with such behaviour. Wrecking so many lives, and no-one (apart from me) says a word to stop him.

I have about a month to wait for the next court appearance over financials.
It's going to be a long hard expensive slog.