I don’t think my H’s feelings for me will ever change. It’s been 10 months since BD and I don’t see even a hint of him missing me. It seems that he is very content with his life and doesn’t want me in it. This is the end of my M, and I have to accept it.
My BD only precedes yours by a couple of weeks, but similarly, my W has shown zero interest in reconciling and has said she's quite happy with her new life. In fact she recently said she wants to pursue D soon (this is a new development). The biggest difference in our sitches is that I've really detached from W, I'm OK with my sitch whether we reconcile or not. I am not waiting around for her, I'm living my life. Maybe she'll rejoin me in life at some point, maybe not. But that is not impacting my PMA and the pleasure I am having living my life.
That said, I am STILL standing. Standing doesn't mean stopping your life. Standing doesn't mean wallowing in pity and despair. You can live your life without your spouse and still stand for your M. Why am I standing? Because even though it's been over 10 months, if you read the success stories there have been a significant number of WAS's that changed their minds even after a year or more. You have to remember, what your H says/ thinks only applies to TODAY. He may never change his mind, but he may change it tomorrow. How long you stand is up to you. I don't know how long I will, but for now I still do.
