I got tired of guessing what might be wrong (patience has never been one of my strong points--lol!) I called him on the cell at lunch and told him not to bs me, something was really bothering him and I was feeling creepy about it.
It turned out that he had been fretting over a work situation for the last two days (that he's been off) in which he feels like a nurse endangered a patient and when he got to work he had to call for the EMTs. The EMT's were new people and didn't listen when Wolfie told them what was going on--they treated the guy with something that endangered his life even further. We talked about it awhile and decided that he would call and check on the guy's condition instead of just worry. Then we talked about Wolfie calling the patient's doctor and relaying his concerns.
Wolfie made both calls and then called me back to say he felt a lot better about things. I told him that I can't help but sense when something is wrong, and it is frustrating when he tells me NOTHING is wrong, he's FINE--and then I start assuming it has something to do with me.
A lot of times, it does have to do with me when he starts acting pissy and weird, and after he has stewed around about something for along time until he has built something small into a huge dramatic ordeal, it all comes flying up at me out of nowhere or I start getting punished for something I have no idea what I'm being punished for.
I hope he can start talking to me more when he's just fretting about something, so we don't go through those old cycles. I'm trying to do a 180 and basically demand to know what he's upset about. It feels like I'm being really controlling when I do that--but I don't like dealing with the alternatives.
I don't know if any of this about our convoluted communication problems makes any sense to anyone else...so just ignore if this all sounds like I'm blathering away.
