Papa Mtnman and FY thanks for the input and advice.
Perhaps I have done W a bit of a disservice and my post was a little one sided. W has offered to stand weekends etc so that I can have the same opportunity.
I appreciate the gesture but standing a weekend is nothing compared to using up your very limited leave. Especially when you have S each weekend and the big DIY jobs you have to use leave to get done as well.
FY you make a good point re W holidays with GF. Before she met me she did and she has had weekends away with the girls. She has recently had a long weekend away with the girls albeit not abroad. She is already planning a long weekend abroad with the girls in September which I am fine with and even offered to look after the dog. However, she is after a week away in addition to this.
There is also the other side which has crossed my mind that if she is planning a weekend away with the girls in September is the week in summer really with the girls or OM. In which case it would be a flat no. But I guess I will never know that.
Neither W or I have had more than a couple of days away from S for a break and how welcome it would be to have a weeks holiday. It would do her the world of good so yes guess she would be extremely grateful.
But a big part of me thinks that why should either of us get a holiday when S will miss out.
Thanks for the input with this. I will mull it over some more.
