You control yourself, and what you talk about. You don't get to control what she talks about or what she asks you about. You don't get to stop her from bringing it up. "There is nothing to discuss" sounds like a statement of fact, as if your reality and what you would like to discuss gets to trump anyone else's reality. Not true, and controlling to say it that way. Learn to speak about what you will do and what you think, not "This is the truth, my opinion is the truth."

It is a difficult thing to grasp and learn, because it probably sounds like splitting hairs if you're used to communicating in a controlling way.

One suggestion would be, "I feel very hurt about [xyz] and I do not want to talk about it right now. I will go home if you bring it up again tonight." I don't see that as controlling, just protecting your reasonable boundary.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.