Moving forward with my life

[cbtdad]

I'm not joining her for dinner. She said son was asking for me last night and she told him maybe we could do dinner tonight.
I did agree to pick up chicken and bring it to her moms. That way I can always leave if need be. I do want to see my son that is why. Especially since I'm leaving tomorrow for 5 days.
Mach,
My goal right now is to distance myself. Would I like to reconcile? Maybe if she works on herself and changes some things as well.
The person she had been the last 6-8 months is absolutely someone I do not want to be with. And the fact that I did not see that as a controlling statement is exactly why I told her that I do not want to involve myself with her or anyone new for that matter until I fix me. I have a made a lot of progress but i still have a long way to go.
No question lately it seems like she wants to have her cake and eat it to. She wants to have this new thing and lean on me for emotional support. That is something I will not do while she is involved with someone else. So the only way I know how to say that is to say there is nothing to discuss while you are involved with someone else.
I don't know how else to put it