Did you, or did you not, say that one of her complaints was that you were controlling ???
Did you, or did you not, JUST say, in the same sentence, that you were going to stop being controlling, and then make a very controlling statement to her ???
The importance of the words you choose, do play a part in this right now CB...
Your actions should be speaking, and yet you are still choosing words poorly to back them up....
And until they can match exactly, then you need to be very careful choosing them...