So this is what I want to send to my W. I am posting it here instead of sending it to her. If she brings things up tonight and won't let it go about talking about things I guess I will tell her in person then.
Moving on
W, I don't want to talk about anything. While there is another man in your life there is nothing to discuss. I have said before that I am willing to let you go. That time has come. It's time for me to let go. I've wanted nothing more but to try and make this work. I can continue to work on me by myself, but I can't work on us alone. And I can't force you to do that. I spent too long trying to control things. It's time I let go. This is a journey that you need to take on your own. You need to figure out what you want in life. I truly hope you find what makes you happy.
I just want to end the thought that she thinks I want to discuss things
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
W, I don't want to talk about anything. While there is another man in your life there is nothing to discuss. I have said before that I am willing to let you go. That time has come. It's time for me to let go. I've wanted nothing more but to try and make this work. I can continue to work on me by myself, but I can't work on us alone. And I can't force you to do that. I spent too long trying to control things. It's time I let go. This is a journey that you need to take on your own. You need to figure out what you want in life. I truly hope you find what makes you happy.
That ^^^^ is the longest " I don't want to talk about anything" , that I have seen for a long time around here....
What do you gain by saying all of that ???
Why are there still, more words ???
Why do I feel, that you WILL go against your words before the week is up ???
And just to SHOW you that there is an emptiness in your words up there....
Originally Posted By: CB
And I can't force you to do that. I spent too long trying to control things.
You pull this out \/ \/ \/ \/ , right after you said this /\ /\ /\
Originally Posted By: CB
This is a journey that you need to take on your own. You need to figure out what you want in life.
Someone stated earlier that you agreed to about keeping it simple.
Why not just say. Dinner sounds good, but I'm not comfortable talking anything other son tonight.
You telling her that your letting her go? Show her your letting go.
Me:34 W:26 Together:5yrs M:6/4/11 1st bomb 11/11 2nd bomb 1/21/13 W files for D 3/18/13 She's living with her mom S:13 Previous marriage S:11 Previous marriage She has OM Previous FWB
Yes Mach1! That's what I want to say. That's why I posted it on here to get it out of my system. I know that's too much. Bottom line. All that needs to be said is I don't want to talk about anything. As long as there is another man in your life there is nothing to discuss. That's it. End of story
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
I gotta say something. She is going to bring it up. I'm not going to just ignore it and change subject. She will continue to ask to talk.
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
I gotta say something. She is going to bring it up. I'm not going to just ignore it and change subject. She will continue to ask to talk.
Thanks for this. I would have not seen the controlling in that, until you said something, now it is blaring!
Something else I will be looking at... Everything I say. Dang.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
As long as there is another man in your life there is nothing to discuss.
Still too controlling....
Think harder...
OPPS!! I menat to quote this one!
Thanks for this. I would have not seen the controlling in that, until you said something, now it is blaring!
Something else I will be looking at... Everything I say. Dang.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
"I don't want to talk about anything. As long as there is another man in your life there is nothing to discuss."
This is what you have right now. If you can think of something better between now and seeing her then by all means post it here or say it to her. Until you do, plan to use that and stick to it.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
