BANG! Bomb Drop Number Two

[mrtwopointfour]

Hi FY, that all sounds familiar. I have not applied any pressure to commit at all over the last months, but I feel that I have been trying to control certain areas of our R, and I think this is what has caused BD2 and also to make W accuse me of trying to make her stay / or enjoying watching her suffer. (That and not wanting to engage in discussions on D / selling house etc) From now on i am backing off more, if she wants to do things I am not going to point out the downfalls of these things, only support her like I would a friend. Maybe even if I think something is a bad idea, let her try it out. Because having my say is what I have always done, only because I care, but I can see how this could come across as controlling and W not being her own person.

W continues today to me overly nice. Then again she always gets like this when she has a trip away planned. So reading nothing in to this. I think I am only just beginning to get this now. Strange I thought I got it before, but I think i was fooling myself into knowing what to do, but only pretending to do it.

It hurts that I am letting go a little, and i feel like I am taking a huge gamble, but what I have done for the last 3 months has not really worked.