Hit hard still taking another step forward.

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WOW.

I'm so happy for you!! What a progress! And I love that you told her about the roller coaster after you went. Honestly, if I hear a man saying "I'm gonna do this" I'd just think "Ok good for you" but when I hear him saying he's done it before I even knew about it, I'd be so impressed just like how your W was! Good for you & I'm so proud of you!!! oh I'm sure the people in line you told that you were there to get over the fear must have talked about you to their friends later. That is just a cool thing to do. Who goes on a roller coaster alone, let alone going to an amusement park alone!

Reading your update and the talk with your W - it's like a different person from a week ago. You were so concerned about how your W would think/react. But this time you were able to tell her firmly "This is how I'm feeling and you need to not have any contact at all with OM"

I wonder if she had sent the bouquet of flowers to herself to make you jealous.. you know like in When Harry Met Sally

Lastly I wanted to comment -
When my H and I broke up once when we were dating, I dated a guy. From the beginning in my mind he was just a transitional guy. I wasn't even thinking about dating or going in another relationship but he really liked me and I caved. He knew that I had just broken up with my bf and I'd always tell him I still had hopes. He then would tell me "Hope is a bad thing (WTF??)" He was saying that because he wanted me to forget about H. He was nice and fun but he just wasn't H. We had gone on few dates and we slept together. You know how people always say men can sleep with women without being emotionally attached but women have to be emotionally attached to even have sex? Well it turned out it wasn't entirely true. I was NEVER emotionally attached to this guy. I just liked him but that's about it. It didn't matter what he did to please me, I was always thinking about my H.

So when your W is telling you how she felt about this OM, I believe her. She thought you were done, her mother thought you were done. Let me tell ya mothers are so concerned about daughters they will suggest whatever they think would make us happy again. My mom just flew over from our mo country just to see how I was. When she was leaving she told me she was glad I was more than ok. The next day she went back, she was calling me if I was ok. It was quite frankly getting annoying! lol but I could see how she was/is SO beyond belief worried.

I said it before but you've come a long way and is a different better person now. Just like others said, take it slow and don't forget where you are right now. And most importantly "LISTEN." We love guys who actually listen to us.