Still wearing my wedding ring. I figure as long as I am married I will wear my ring. I know others think differently.
There's not a solid DB rule on this. Some people think it should be removed so it's not perceived as "pressure" on the WAS, others think it sends the wrong message to the WAS. So do what you feel is right. I hadn't worn one for many years, so it wasn't a bridge I had to cross.
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Weirdly I am already thinking about what I want my next R to look like.
I think that's fine, thinking about it and doing it are two different things. For me I had to do this (think about future R's) as part of my detachment.
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(Of course I fantasize that H will come around again & start flirting w me & realize OW is NOT what he wants & it is really me that he longs for deep in his heart....but I don't let myself stay in this fantasy for long.)
I don't even allow myself such fantasies because W seems to cold/ indifferent I can't imagine it ever happening. It's just so surreal to see W this way, even before we dated she pursued me pretty aggressively. I was dating her best friend at the time, LOL! She's definitely not the same person she used to be.
