Can I ask - does anybody elses MLCer say they don't feel like the house they are living in is their home? I wish my W did not feel like she can not live here anymore, I know she feels trapped her, maybe that's it.
Yes. Early on my W said all she thought about all day at work was running away, getting a place of her own, etc. Also said being around me "felt weird".
Removing all pressure to re-commit, and giving her space and freedom has gone a long way to helping her feel comfortable around here. She no longer seems to be going anywhere. On New Year’s eve, she heard the Soul Asylum song “Runaway Train” while she was journaling. She stopped and told me how she was just writing about how she "didn’t runaway last year"! I like to think I had a hand in that.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
