[RealityTrip]

Hey there. Just caught up. I'm sorry! I was in "RT" land the past few days sailing the waters with W.

So much going on for you. I'm really glad UrWorthy was here for you to help you calm down from the emotional spin that got you the other day.

Worthy was also right a couple of days ago that H will get angry when OW puts on the pressure. Sounds like you are dealing with a little of that right now. Just stay clear and focused and recognize it. It will help you to control your reactions.

I have to say, I smiled when I read your speaker phone interruption.

As for separation, I was miserable when my W left. The best thing I think to come of it is that my W was able to live a little bit more "reality" with her AP and things haven't been what they seemed from what she tells me. I still wouldn't want it for anyone though. It's hard. I wouldn't bring it up but if he does then a simple response.. "that's your decision to make" would suffice.

WS's know what they are doing is wrong and are constantly looking for us to give them validation in their choices. If he threatens to leave and you are peaceful?... that does not hold as much weight for him in his quest for validation than if you were to lose your cool and tell him to go. It would come out the other side as "my W threw me out, or my W left me".

I met with a MC once that described the natural flow of a M like an hour glass. Airy, full and abundant floating on top, then it narrows and becomes uncomfortable in a sort of "power struggle" and those that can weather the sand storm end up on a solid foundation with a full and abundant marriage.

I try to keep focused on that. And most importantly... Keep focused on you. (((((((InIt)))))))