Man, what an explanation, AS! You expressed that in words that I fully grasp and understand. Thank you for your effort in helping me, "get it".
You're quite welcome! RetroV was a goldmine of info on communicating, I just wish we had gone years ago before our M was this far gone.
Originally Posted By: suckerpunch
I didn't reply much about it other than saying, "I am empathetic for wife. This is a really tough situation and she is trying to handle it the best she can. Please realize she is the same person she has always been. This is just a difficult time for her and I. I am sorry that it was awkward for you".
EXCELLENT!!! Now that is the right approach! It wouldn't hurt to add something positive as well, like "Please realize she is the same kind, good-hearted person she has always been." or whatever positive attributes you think are appropriate. Because when you say good things about her, it WILL get back to her (the same as if you say bad things about her). And people's attitudes towards her will change as well, they'll treat her kindly rather than as a black sheep.
