Hey Reb, we are pretty much at the same spot, I think. The key here is to not expect anything, good or bad. Only the expectations you have of yourself can have any validity.
Bug is right when she says that the place we are now could not have occurred if the situation itself had not occurred. In that, we have to find a gift, you know?
While no one wants to be in these situations, we have lost and gained so much that we become stronger and better.
I feel, too, that I am the person I used to be, but better. Kinder, happier, not looking for the blame or the "better" or the "what if". I am content with today
