You're right - it is delusional thinking. My H will not acknowledge how his actions have affected the boys. Early on I told him they were struggling. He accused me of playing emotional games with him. After that I haven't said anything. He's never seen them cry. They save all of their tears for me. The few times they tried to tell him how they felt he started spewing about it being all my fault. It's been almost a year and a half and he's only seen the boys a few times. Each time they came home hurt by his bragging of how great his life is. There is no relationship between them now. He really thought that he could just walk away, without warning, create a whole new life while continuing to threaten our stability and the boys would be fine.
I'm glad your H still sees your boys and did seem to hear you about how they are struggling.
