Confused about what I want

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I just want to give credit to all the parents with an MLC'er. Parenting is a tough job as it is, and it is especially difficult during this situation.

I had a hopefully enlightening conversation with H this AM about the kids....well hopefully. He still thinks that parenting our two boys has become my sole problem as every time a teacher or someone calls regarding the boys he comes running to me to fix it. Apparently that was what his two phone calls and two text messages were about yesterday. Funny how I don't hear from him at all unless it is about them.

I am no longer handling my MLC'er with kid gloves. I don't care what that does to affect the possibility of reuniting the marriage. He has gone too far where the boys are considered...consider this my boundary.

I essential said to him this morning in a firm tone that his son is struggling mentally and emotionally with the situation. He looked astonished to say the least and said "and how was I supposed to know?" In my mind I was thinking...really dude?!?! I didn't answer the question.

WTF! He is really delusional...if he thinks the kids are fine, he really needs to wake up and see

I was challenged more on my part in parenting and what I don't do. I had to throw that one back at him. He was quiet. I followed up and said that I would not be questioned or insulted on what I do or don't do with the boys as I am a very good parent, and handle the situations that come up when they come up.

I ended the conversation after that. I am really tired of his childish antics with the kids. If he wants his kids to excel and be the kids they were before this, he is going to either need to shut up and step out of the way or start taking an active role.

I finally found a therapist/counselor for myself and am going to see when I go in a couple of weeks if he accepts the kids insurance and get my kids to go at least once.

H has way too much control, and I would soon rather go into debt than have all of us emotionally crumble at his feet.

Again, this is me taking fear out of the everything. I will not any longer live my life that way, which is what I have been doing...I see this now.

It really is time for me to move on. I am getting to the point that I don't want my marriage. I just really want him gone out of the picture...for good.

Maybe this is what Divorce Busting is, maybe not. But I am done. My kids deserve a respectable father in their life and I deserve a respectable husband. Since he can't be either, he just needs to move on.