Bea, Happy Belated Birthday! I'm glad it was an awesome day for you.
I'm not at all surprised by the call from your xh. He's waking up more and more every day. I'm sure the call shocked you since you've not had a call like that in many years.
He is definitely reconnecting w/family and friends once again and he's really trying to reconnect w/you as well. He's trying to find ways to open the door to your heart and he's still searching for the right key. He doesn't understand that his behavior changed the course of life for everyone and that you've changed so much during his absence. He's still thinking you are the Bea he left behind. He's going to find a new and improved Bea and it's going to shock him just how much you've grown.
Bea, in time, you will know whether or not you wish to have contact w/him on a periodic basis. Right now, it's still a bit of a shock to have him popping out of the wood work when you least expect it. If he's still involved w/OW2, it's not serious since he's sending you a gift or trying to stay in touch w/you. She's nothing more than a buddy at this point. I honestly think deep down he would like to rekindle what he had w/you...but he's still got a ways to go because he is still trying to figure out how to go about it. Bea, if and when the time comes, you will ultimately be the one to make the decision as to whether or not you want to have a more meaingful relationship w/him.
Bea, you are a wonderful woman and you have so much to offer the world. I'm glad you continue to post, share your life and offer up advice to others. Life is full of surprises and miracles. I do believe your life's chapter w/your xh is not over yet.
Have a great day!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
