Everyone thanks for the input and keep going tonkarider, you will get a lot of support here.
Just a brief update but much the same. W is distancing again the last couple of times I saw her. No invite for coffee and minimal conversation. This seems to be a pattern that is emerging in that we have a few weeks of good communication and then she withdraws. She is also trying to stop smoking again so she probably isn't in the best mood either
Also got another tricky sitch to handle with W. She wants me to take a week off work this summer and have S for a week whilst she goes on holiday with her GF. She raised this a while back about how we should make the most of our sitch by doing things like this.
This is complicated as S has special needs so one of us cannot take him away on our own as he is too difficult to manage. I have S every weekend and my leave is the only chance I get for a break both from work and being S carer. W does not work so has all day to herself and every weekend to herself with our current arrangement.
So in short I want to say no to W request but I know she will hit the roof. What I would like is some honest advice about if I am being selfish/unreasonable if I say no. I cannot get unbiased advice from friends/family so wanted to throw it open here before I set W on a rage. So please be honest.
