She's a revenge? Or a self-punishment? Hard to say really. At least at this point. Makes it kind of like watching a train-wreck, right? I know for me, watching my ex do what she did and marry her "dad" (he's much much older) was really kind of funny in a way. Watching her try to get several different men, only to be turned down and "settle" on this one was like watching a train-wreck in slow motion. The op is almost never better than what they left. It's odd how that part of the script stays the same even when the faces and names change. Nope, this is all about him and his issues. It's why we always say you didn't break him and you can't fix him. He has to learn for himself.
As for the emails and advice? I suggest in the future you refrain from suggesting that he seek counsel if he disagrees. He needs to figure that out. It's obvious. But if it comes from you, it's seen as manipulation, oddly enough. State your position and leave the "if you feel you disagree seek counsel.." parts out. You'll be glad you didn't give him advice later.
You have let him feel the full force of his choices. He seems to need that for whatever reason we can only guess.
Have a great night, BRNR!!
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
Nope, this is all about him and his issues. It's why we always say you didn't break him and you can't fix him. He has to learn for himself. 