D9 says it's because nobody seems to be what they really are. I think she's right.
Out of the mouths of babes...
As for the swimming/lake parts - it might be offbase, but mebbe it's a reference to the BB, the windows where you can learn to swim by watching, our spouses the fish swimming around...I dunno maybe I'm off base there, but.... ((((Betsey))))
Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
Ellie, Ellie--Peyote chips? I've done my fair share of self medication, but have never done peyote...
I hadn't even consumed soda or caffeine before bed, so I don't think this is the case. Besides, I woke up with this dumb dream. I was tired from being in all those places!
Myrrh--I like that analogy, and think it's pretty observant. Good for you!
Mer and A--I think maybe the thing I don't do enough of that I USED TO THINK was bad was having time to do nothing. I no longer feel the need to constantly accomplish tasks, so I often use the time I would have spent doing them by calling friends, spending time on the BB, reading or snoozing.
These were all things that Mr. Wonderful would not have approved. If I was reading, that meant HE was in charge of the girls (bad, because he added that to his pile of resentments). Ditto on naps. Spending time with friends meant that I was not devoting my time to him.
Fortunately, he HAS changed in that regard. However, he's not home for me to put my words to the test. At least I think he's worked through the resentment.
I'm guessing the soda had to represent something neutral (unlike alcohol or drugs). It had to be something, that in moderation, was not bad--but in excess, is not good for me.
Thanks for pointing that out.
I don't need to turn into a serial root beer drinker now. Whew, that is a big relief!
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Yum, root beer. I tried to explain the Nemo thing to my (therapist) boss today, and she didn't get it. She is a wise lady in some respects, but she thinks a lot of Michele's ideas are stupid. Course, never mind that they WORK. I told her to get DR, because its attitude about divorce is a wee bit more realistic, and she said she would.
I am not seeing a lot of people walk out of our office withthe tools to a better marriage - I wish she would be more solution-oriented, because its discouraging to watch marriages crumble here while trying to keep my own intact. Speaking of which, I sh/ probably post on my own thread sometime, (I realized I have a really hard time talkin about my own situation - embarrassment, fear of being judged, fear of hearing that I'm an idiot)
(((Betsey)))) Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
I could sure freakin try, couldn't I, Ellie? It KILLS me to watch these people struggle with more of the same, and watch my boss pronounce the death sentences of their marriages, and watch her say there's no way he/she will ever change.
IT makes me so MAD I could just chew something. SOmebody get me a bone!
Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
OMG, I just realized that you work for a marriage therapist! I'm betting you have more knowledge here than she does...
Unless of course you can sit around and just hypothesize how they got in such a mess to begin with. Pish posh, who has time for that?
And you live within driving distance to Michele's office. Sad.
Myrrh, in the time I've been on the board (both as a lurker and posting), I've rarely seen someone pass judgment. So get over to your place and fill us in.
That's an order... or I'll come swim over and chomp.
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Don't worry, we would never pass judgement!! I promise that as embarassing as things may seem to you, on this board there is someone who has posted worse. And things are almost never as bad as they seem...
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
Yes, Myrrh, listen to Betsey! I felt like I was Charles Manson (or worse) and not one person passed a bit of judgement on me. Never saw a glass house in my life, Myrrh....
