Divorced-not done-But wondering ?

[JJAC2005]

Negatvie Effects of Not Detaching

If you are unable to detach from people, then you:

■Will have people which become over-dependent on you
■Run the risk of being manipulated to do things for people which you do not really want to do
■Can become an obsessive "fix it" who needs to fix everything you perceive to be imperfect
■Run the risk of performing tasks because of the intimidation you experience from people
■Will most probably become powerless in the face of the demands of the people you have given the power to control you
■Will be blind to the reality that the people which control you are the uncontrollable's you need to let go of if you are to become a fully healthy, coping individual
■Will be easily influenced by the perception of helplessness which these people project
■Might become caught up with your idealistic need to make everything perfect for people important to you even if it means your own life becomes unhealthy
■Run the risk of becoming out of control of yourself and experience greater low self-esteem as a result
■Will most probably put off making a decision and following through on it
■Will be so driven by guilt and emotional dependence that the sickness in the relationship will worsen
■Run the risk of losing your autonomy and independence and derive your value or worth solely from the unhealthy relationship you continue with the unhealthy person