LOL...yeah, you have to check out hashing. Some running/hiking with a bit of a puzzle and beer...awesome.
Originally Posted By: Spartan
I'm excited for you guys. I think taking it slow is important and even more important is having clear boundaries set up. They just can't come across as controlling, have to be more about protecting yourselves
I agree on the boundaries. We discussed again tonight, and how it relates to control. She wants to manage OM the way she wants, without my input...so we'll work thru that.
She did talk some more about the PA tonight, and while I feel like she opened up, she also ended with "I don't want to rehash this every night." She's ashamed and doesn't want to relive it over and over...understandable. I told her, it hurts me too, so I just want my questions answered and to move past it....but we need to build some trust here.
I also specifically addressed not repeating the past, as in, not addressing the issues. She agreed. She also told me she felt pressure to "get in or get out" and I told her, "take all the time you need....I won't go back to limbo, but I do want you to make the right decision for you. It can't be because of pressure, or guilt, or fear...it has to be what you want."
