WAW having affair, still living in separate rooms

[SFC_Swede]

Kenva, you appear to be taking this all in stride, and have a positive mental attitude. I am here for the same reasons most come here. I too got the "I care about you, but I am not in love with you...and havent been for years" speech. She also wants me out and saying she is filing for divorce. Do I think there is OM? Possibly. Or it could just be the years wearing on the R and me not paying attention or taking things for granted. I am still in moderation, but I hope you guys pop over to see my story, and pass along some advice. If your like me, we dont have a whole lot of people to lean on.

As for custody brother...fight for it. My first marriage went down in flames, and I ended up with my clothes and a huge child support payment. I had to work 2 and 3 jobs just to survive, and I had no time for my kids despite the liberal visitation rights she agreed to. I was supposed to get them every summer, but because I had to work all the time, was alone, had little disposable extra money, and had no one to look after the little ones. By the time I met W2, got a better job, and was more secure...my kids were in their teens, and being around dad vs friends, boyfriends, and other distractions was more important than coming to stay with me. It didnt help that throughout the years when I couldnt take them, it built up resentment in their eyes.

So, my only life advice is...take care of your son. Because one day, you arent going to be cool anymore...and will find it harder to connect with him. Sure, my oldest (D25) now is in my life (they do come back as they get older). But it was years of pain and absence before this.