M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Hey, JP you are on a tremendously strong streak right now. Don't leave it. I need to channel some of that my way.
You have really helped me today & I just wanted to stop by & let you know. Thank you!
Glad I could help. Thank you!
I am struggling too, this is hard stuff.
If we all help each other, we help ourselves.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
J, I like where you are going. Yes, it is time for you to find JP.
I think you are going to like what you find.
Originally Posted By: in_it
You have really helped me today & I just wanted to stop by & let you know. Thank you!
This must feel good, yes? ^^^^^
Yes
Originally Posted By: uRworthy
And I am a quoting queen now thanks to you. LOL!
Yes you are! Let's see some color and bold now?
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
When was last cooking day? What did you make? Did you ask your daughter to be "sous chef"?
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
I am handling my lows better now than I was, so I guess that is good.
This is hard and so different for me.
I am used to learning something and then it is like I got it and know what to do.
With this I learn something, fight to do it emotionally, then it changes and I have to grasp onto where I am again and then my emotions are two blocks away and I have to go back and get them and not forget what I need to do.
Band concert tonight, no cooking.
I am tired, tomorrow will be better.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
W texted me something and I took it as she was done. I don't think she meant that after texting her back.
When I read and interpreted it as she was done, I broke. My heart pounded, I was over come with nausea, I wanted to curl up in a ball and die.
So I am still shaky and not sure what she is saying, but I am now seeing I have to change. I have to really do this somehow, be ok either way, no matter what or I wont make it.
Thought I had made some progress, but I haven't.
I crumble at the thought of loosing her.
How do I break away and find myself and be OK with myself. I suppose I need to re read my threads as the answers are there.
I feel so alone. I really do hate this.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
JP, you have made progress. You are going to have good days and bad. Remember this is some really hard stuff. Feel it for a little bit then let it go. That has helped me more than anything lately. I will allow myself to feel what I am for a little while, but then I start to move more thoughts to the new me and what i want. If you lose her you will be alright. If you dont lose her, you will be alright. You have to love you before you can love her. I am starting to get this. I told my W yesterday the difference between her and I is that I want to fix me before I involve myself with her or anyone new. I dont want to bring the old me into any relatioship ever again
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
Let's see some 