I am a NICE shark, not a mindless eating machine.

[holdingon]

Why is the phone our only medium for him to act like I'm worth talking to?

Because he doesn't have to see your wonderful face and be reminded CONSTANTLY what he has done/is doing. On the phone he can create his own little world... Even my H said to look at me is to be reminded... it's the guilt at play. And either guilt can be directed inward as guilt or AT YOU as anger... Just my two cents, of course.

And yes, there IS hope.