Betsey, The whole emotion thing has been a big one for me too. Just dealt with it on my own thread. I am beginning to see that I can't blame my H for being scared of my emotions. They usually turned on him when he wasn't "doing the right thing" when I was simply being sad or vulnerable. My H needs to see that me being sad isn't going to turn into me being a crazymaker. Betsey, your H will see that you're not the same Betsey anymore. It just takes a long time to rebuild it all.
By the way, just so you know, the counseling dilemma is o.k. Just needed to talk it thru. It does not escape my attention that the old Pam would have seen it as "It's over!" The new Pam calmly discussed it and worked with H to come up with the solution...
