Confused about what I want

[BRNR]

Thanks for all the support from everyone who posted on this thread. I really appreciated what everyone had to say and offer.

I did meet with a second attorney today, and he gave me the same advice that this first attorney did. Agree with H on the financial terms or force H to file the divorce himself and get things done. He said NOT to file for support until H is contributing ZERO to the marital debts because should the divorce occur, I will be stuck with this award which will most often than not be less than what I would be awarded in the divorce.

He also advised that both H and I should seek marital counseling (which the first attorney said as well). This I know is a no-no in dealing with an MLC'er, so discarding that advice for now.

He said as far as custody of the child, no judge will grant that for various reasons and I should simply say no on that or again force him to legally obtain the child through the divorce, which he still will probably not get.

Attorney also said maybe to throw in the email that I have consulted an attorney(s) and make claims that he will need to file the divorce for his demands to be met.

So, I am still not filing for divorce. At this point, I am not sure if I should agree to the financial demands or push/persuade H to file.

urghh!!! So aggravating...but I guess I gotta put my big girl panties on and make a decision. I am going to take a few more days to decide...

As always, any opinion on the matter is always welcomed...