Kaffe thank you for your response I will be honest with you i dont really know how these BB work and I dont even know how to move this over to another forum.
to answer your questions
The most postive change i have made is learning how to be the best person and Father I can be and be more attenitive to others feeling.
I have been dealing with past hurts and anger and asking for forgiveness as well as forgiving for thing that has happend in the past and repairing broken down relationships with my family.
I have been doing consuling (I would of never thought about that ever) and my life revoles around my kids and being a good father which i wasnt the best father I worked way to much they are the most important thing to me. Definitly turned into a famliy man.
Stared going back to church and beliving in GOD to help me through this I found a great church near by i love it there and so do my kids.
I have started seeing OW but only on a friend basis.
I have I plan trips with my kids which i have a question about im going to take my kids to Disney I know this will hurt My XW badly because we both wanted to take them there when they got older so i was thinking of asking her to go? Good idea or bad idea? Im not taking them to hurt her I have just been saving up to take them and i dont want them to loose out on a wonderful trip while they are still young enough to enjoy it.
I also have made up a list of items that i relized i have done through out my marriage to my XW that hurt her so badly, I want to sit down and talk with her and as her for forgiveness not for pursing her but to help me move on and not feel so much guilt. I this a bad idea or not?
