Time for the Loop the Loop on this rollercoaster!

[Papa4Life]

Hi SM34. It sounds as if you've decided to seek your own happiness again and live the life that YOU want to live. Bravo.

I think that what Tallula wrote is valid, and it's probably what a lot of people hear from well-meaning friends and family. The problem is, of course, that those people don't have to live with the consequences of that decision and what it would mean in your specific situation.

For some people, it's "1 and done" when it comes to infidelity, but that's not how every one of is feels. There is still a good chance that W will have a change of heart and be willing to work on building a 'new' M together. You can get past this.

But to give yourself a shot at achieving that you must continue to GAL and keep a PMA. You're back on track again and I respect your efforts to keep DBing and to improve your sitch. Keep it up!