[in_it]

I know. I did reply to him & asked if he meant the girls as well. All he said was no.

Does anybody know if a father can sign over their rights if the mother doesn't want them to?

[jp787]

Help! Just got this text from H. What do I say?

If you are continuing on with this I would sign over my parental rights and it can be all yours

If YOUare continuing on with this?
What does that mean?

I would guess that text is an impulse text based on some emotion he is having at the moment. I wouldn't reply to it.

[MrCAS]

His text and reply make no sense.

[in_it]

He is saying that he doesn't want anything to do with baby, but will not give up rights to our girls.

He's so concerned about the well being of our daughters & always having a great relationship with them. Doesn't he realize that if he disowns this baby that our girls will know that? What will that do to them mentally & emotionally? What is everyone around him & in his life going to think when they know what he has chosen? He's messed up.

This makes me want to tell the OW so bad everything he has said to me.

[jp787]

He is saying that he doesn't want anything to do with baby, but will not give up rights to our girls.

He's so concerned about the well being of our daughters & always having a great relationship with them. Doesn't he realize that if he disowns this baby that our girls will know that? What will that do to them mentally & emotionally? What is everyone around him & in his life going to think when they know what he has chosen? He's messed up.

You can't make him think anything, he will think and do what he will and have to live with his choices. All you can do is take care of and support your girls and yourself.

This makes me want to tell the OW so bad everything he has said to me.

I can understand your wanting to have her see his other side, I really do. I belief that she will, maybe not today or tomorrow, but in time she will.

What are your plans for today, for you??

[in_it]

I'm trying to work, it's hard. I've been here for 2 hours & nothing has been accomplished. I'm just sitting in my office with the door shut staring into space.

I called my C and got an 'emergency' session for IC in an hour. Don't really know what will come of it? I guess I'll just lay it all out there & listen.

I won't call the OW at this point, but it really ticks me off that he is trying to hide all of this from her. If H actually leaves & continues to say these things to me I do think I will let her know. If he is going to leave me & there is no chance for reconciliation for us, at that point I don't think I'll have anything to lose. I'll simply let her know that while I do still want things to workout with my H I don't think that they will & just want her to know everything he has been telling me up to this point & that I'm pregnant. I'm in a bad spot right now & just feel like if he is going to bring me down, then I'll do the same to him.

I feel like he is spinning just as much as me & sees his relationship with OW crumbling if he can't get me to terminate the pregnancy because she will have to know about it at some point. Even it's down the road & they are together & H still has our daughters in his life they will at some point tell her they have a sibiling. I know all of these thoughts are wrong, but they are there & I don't know how to get them out.

Can someone get divorced if they are pregnant, or do you have to wait until the baby is born?

[jp787]

I called my C and got an 'emergency' session for IC in an hour. Don't really know what will come of it? I guess I'll just lay it all out there & listen.

This is great that you got in! Go and let it out!

I won't call the OW at this point, but it really ticks me off that he is trying to hide all of this from her. If H actually leaves & continues to say these things to me I do think I will let her know. If he is going to leave me & there is no chance for reconciliation for us, at that point I don't think I'll have anything to lose. I'll simply let her know that while I do still want things to workout with my H I don't think that they will & just want her to know everything he has been telling me up to this point & that I'm pregnant. I'm in a bad spot right now & just feel like if he is going to bring me down, then I'll do the same to him.

I feel like he is spinning just as much as me & sees his relationship with OW crumbling if he can't get me to terminate the pregnancy because she will have to know about it at some point. Even it's down the road & they are together & H still has our daughters in his life they will at some point tell her they have a sibling. I know all of these thoughts are wrong, but they are there & I don't know how to get them out.

Keep venting here like your doing!!! It does help. I hope telling us helps get this negative out of your head, it has got to be so painful!

Can someone get divorced if they are pregnant, or do you have to wait until the baby is born?

If you "have to know" Google it. Then let it go and focus on you for the rest of the day!

Can you play any online games at work, find a co-worker to chat with, dig into some work?

You can do this!

[in_it]

Thanks jp. You are really helping me stay somewhat sane.

Can't get a divorce in my state until baby is born. Don't know how I feel about that. If it comes to him actually leaving I feel I would want it over with as soon as possible & another part of me feels like that would give me time.

Off to IC. I hope that after this my afternoon will get better.

[Jeack]

Help! Just got this text from H. What do I say?

If you are continuing on with this I would sign over my parental rights and it can be all yours

I would just reply, if that's what you would to do ok

[in_it]

Of course as my luck would have it, my C is running late. More time to sit a boil in my mind.

H text me again…wants to know if I have any thoughts or questions. I told him I have plenty, but am not ready to discuss anything further until I have some time to think & I know he will be open & completly honest with me and not give one word answers or blanket statements with no real meaning. He does this all the time. In the past I thought it was to just suffice my thoughts & keep me at bay. Now I'm wondering if it's because he really doesn't know how else to answer/handle anything.