Thanks folks. I appreciate the support, and I hope this ends up as a success story. Lots of work to be done and some of it is difficult.
Originally Posted By: Inside Out
Do you think that now will be the hardest part??
Yeah, I do think it's the toughest right now. There's so many difficult topics that are at their peak right now:
- trust is extremely low for both of us - W is mourning the loss of her affair - W still has all the pain and hurt that was keeping her from trying up until now - I still don't think W has forgiven me for past mistakes - W is very insecure right now - I had started hanging out with a woman friend for GAL which my W is all over and upset about - W is very concerned about how my family will treat her going forward - W still thinks she loves OM (she'd say, she's not sure she doesn't)
We've talked thru boundaries and quite a bit about the affair. W seems pretty open about it and seems onboard with the boundaries. Sometimes I think she owns the affair, and sometimes I think she doesn't, so we'll see how that progresses. She seems to be doing pretty good with no contact on OM now, but when the wound isn't raw, I worry that she'll open up to it again.
My biggest concern is that we don't fully address all the issues. I don't want to just slide this under the rug and pretend everything is great. We've done that time and time again over the last 15 years. This time, I want to work on it, address the brokenness, and come out on the other side stronger and better....I'm still not sure she's ready to do the work.
