It's easy to focus on things that seem wrong to us and that can cause us to stay stuck, especially when they are things that we can't fix.
The best thing you can do right now, regardless of his impending visit, is to really stay focused on your own growth and future, whether your H is part of that future, or not.
Trying to set things up so that he sees the major changes is again focusing on something that you can't control. If the changes you have made are real and major, he will notice, whether you try to set it up so he notices, or not.
Its tough, but as you continue to work on your detachment and expectations of your H, the easier it will get and there may be a point, when you think you've finally moved on from your H, that you may start to see him being more interested in you and what you are doing.
