Thanks, 2thepoint! My worry about this gift is that we're looking right at another deployment -- I feel like he's leaving in the next few days/weeks. So, you know, the D is delayed, but we're not building memories or working towards reconciliation. I'm hoping he'll call me while he's deployed -- but between the limited access to phones/time off and us being so bad, I don't know. Then again, 6 months ago I could not imagine I'd be in this moment on a forum like this, so! Who knows what the next six will bring?
But like you just said, I can only focus on those things that are in my control. It's just hard to accept sometimes that my control is so limited.
I keep seeing radio silence recommended as a strategy, at least for a bit while you are GAL. Does that count for things like birthdays or congratulations or whatever? I really badly want to text to wish him a happy birthday, but kind of think that might feel clingy or be weird, particularly since I'm the one who filed.
(BTW I like the nickname! Dub. :D)
Me: 30 H: 29 M: 2 yrs T: 5 years BD: 12/14/12 Divorce talk begins 1/6/13 I filed: 5/20/13 -- no contact since
