Hey FY, what's up with you getting on moderation again? LOL!
Oops, my bad. LOL!
Wife at BD:
Originally Posted By: MLC W
Which brought this question to my mind: They Always Have To Crash and Burn?
No they dont, FY. Often enough that is the case, though.
Originally Posted By: UR
I think that for most mlcers, there is a need to see it through.
Just what I have seen the last 6 years. Though there are certainly those who recommitt without seeing it through.
You wife is a strange on, FY. Not sure I see the point of what she is doing.
So my questions are: 1. Does she still have to "see it through", before coming around to love me again? Again, she may not have to. The passage of time and your changes can make her love you again. She can certainly wake up and see what a great guy you are. There is always hope.
2. Once the time comes, what is the best way to tell her I'm not staying in a sexless marriage? (maybe I need to read SSM) I dont have any real experience with that. But I always think simple, direct and honest is the way to go.
3. Since she's still here, (and not complaining about me) she must be getting something out of the R. Would me BD'ing her wake her up? I would imagine she is. Gotta tell you, it's a little strange that she is planning a trip for your anniversary.
I hope I am not overstepping here. If I am, I apologize if I am. Has she gone through menopause? Can this be a part of that? Sometimes women lose interest in sex when going through it
4. Or do I just continue to suck it up and soldier on and see what happens? I would say, since you clearly still love your wife, that you try as long as you can. You'll know when you no longer can. There will be no doubt in your mind.
As I said, she does have me scratching my head a bit.
I also feel that you might want to think about doing something different in the future. Might need to shake things up a little, ya know?
