Hey C, I hope that you take my posts in the way in which they are intended. It is always to try to help.
So, since I am a girl, thought I'd give my take. And the only way I know how to be is honest.
I think the exchange went ok. Just gonna throw some stuff out there, if that's ok.
Originally Posted By: cbtdad
I am trying to have minimal contact as much as possible. One of my problems with that is I want to help though.
I know you want to help, C, but she is a big girl. She doesnt need to be rescued.
Originally Posted By: cbtdad
W: I'm about to freak out
Me: about?
W: I'm trying to freaking get stuff packed and I can't. Honestly I'm about to have a panic attack
Me: Slow down and breathe. Maybe go somewhere by yourself for a moment and just smoke a cig or something I am sorry you are stressed.
W: I have and I'm now on tears.
Me: I'm sorry. You know I hate that. What's holding up the packing?
W: everyone else that's still showing
Me: They can't bring foxy back for you? I mean you seemed to have done a whole lot for them I would think I know you will get it done.
W: I have to get my trunk. It has to go in my car and I have to drive it into the barn
Me: Ok. So do you have any other choices, but to wait I guess?
Me: Why the big hurry? Just curious. Yes, I'm looking forward to a break, but I've had him this long. A few more hours isn't going to kill me. Don't panic because of that
W: I am
Me: I am what?
W: freaking to get home
Me: I understand and you will. He misses you as well. We both knew this couple of weeks was going to be stressful. Just try to hang in there. It's almost done. And it seems like you and foxy did pretty damn well for y'all's first show together. That's something to be happy about:)
W: I'm happy about the show
Me: Good! Anything else I can do to help? You can vent to me all you want
W: no. Pray I get out of here at a decent time
Me: I can do that
Um, she knows you are there for her whenever, wherever. You have told her many times, in many ways. Stop telling her. And she cannot vent to you anytime because you are living your life, right?
Originally Posted By: cbtdad
I am just trying not to have any expectations about it what so ever.
That is a good thing. ^^^^^
Really C, it's true what Acc. said. Women dont want to be told how to fix things. It implies we cant and we sure as heck can. They just want to know they are heard.
So, back to minimal contact, right? And working on not being a fixer?
